A Beautiful, Terrible Thing

A Beautiful, Terrible Thing

A Memoir of Marriage and Betrayal

Book - 2017
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T hese are the questions facing Jen Waite when she begins to realize that her loving husband-the father of her infant daughter, her best friend, the love of her life-fits the textbook definition of psychopath. In a raw, first-person account, Waite recounts each heartbreaking discovery, every life-destroying lie, and reveals what happens once the dust finally settles on her demolished marriage.After a disturbing email sparks Waite's suspicion that her husband is having an affair, she tries to uncover the truth and rebuild trust in her marriage. Instead, she finds more lies, infidelity, and betrayal than she could have imagined. Waite obsessively analyzes her relationship, trying to find a single moment from the last five years that isn't part of the long-con of lies and manipulation. With a dual-timeline narrative structure, we see Waite's romance bud, bloom, and wither simultaneously, making the heartbreak and disbelief even more affecting.
Publisher: New York : Plume, ©2017.
ISBN: 9780735216464
Characteristics: 260 pages ;,22 cm.


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Jan 30, 2019

Fascinating portrayal of the type of sick people that are out there. The author is an amazingly resilient woman. Her ex-husband is scum. Sad but true.

Jan 14, 2019

More terrible than beautiful. A very one-sided story of a marriage breakup. Found the narrative very self-serving but continued reading with the hope there might be some self-awareness of being perhaps partly responsible for the marital difficulties with her unrealistic fairy tale attitude. Knew that was not going to happen when she started diagnosing her ex with Google-defined psychiatric illnesses. Very irresponsible, and apparently is planning to become a counselor?! A very disappointing story.

PimaLib_NormS Mar 21, 2018

Jen Waite has written a beautiful, terrible book entitled, “A Beautiful, Terrible Thing: A Memoir of Marriage and Betrayal”. This is a rollercoaster of a book, alternating between a beautiful, head-over-heels, I’ve-found-my-soulmate love story in chapters titled “Before”, and a terrible story of lies, deceit and betrayal in the “After” chapters. In the Befores, the author’s joy just leaps off the page, and it is natural to be happy for her, for them. Then, along comes an After, and one cannot stop wondering why a person would behave so badly toward someone to whom he has expressed his undying, everlasting love. It is important to note that this is only one side of the story. I wonder, what would the husband say in his book? I guess he would attempt to explain it all away, as he tried to do with his wife. However, it does seem clear that he was the one who cheated; therefore, I would be more inclined to believe the cheat-ee rather than the lying, sociopathic cheat-er. Surely, writing this book was a cathartic act for Jen Waite, but opening up one’s life for the world to see and scrutinize and judge, takes uncommon courage and an openness that not many of us have.

Jan 09, 2018

A memoir of incredible power. Its a harrowing and inspiring account of a woman who finds a strength forged by fire when everything she believed in turns out to be an illusion.
How do we really know the ones we love? Sometimes we don't. It's possible to fall in love with evil and can happen to anyone. Be warned, you won't fall asleep until you finish this book.

Nov 21, 2017

I gave a one star rating based on 1/2 star for all the hype about this book and 1/2 star for the cover. I didn't finish it, I tried hard to continue just based on the hype but found it rather immature rather than inspiring. There is another reviewer who made a comment about all the "babe" in the style. I agree - UGH. So after I put it down my next read is already proving to be very exciting and I have a feeling that I'll be posting a positive review once I'm done my next read!

Oct 08, 2017

I must confess, I am not sure how to rate this book. On one side it is certainly an empowering story of overcoming grief and gaining self-confidence. Jen, the author and the narrator, reveals everything about the horrible betrayal of her husband and about how she had to find the strength inside herself to go on and start a new life with her baby daughter. On the other hand, there were some things that bothered me and made the writer somehow lose credibility. For example, there are (too) many references to her daughter Louise, which made the book boring in parts. We read about nursing Lulu, changing Lulu, trying to calm down a perennially screaming Lulu....and that not counting the horror tale of giving birth to Lulu! This is a personal opinion, of course, but I found all these details distracting and, frankly, extremely boring. Then, some points are not clear to me. Jen tells us that she invests her own money in a restaurant that Marco and two friends of his want to open, but Marco is forever working for a boss. So, what happens to The Thirsty Owl? Do they open and own it or not? Finally - and this was what annoyed me most - why doesn't Jen go directly to a divorce lawyer and strips Marco of everything he owns? Towards the end, she talks about a picture of him and his lover on a yacht, so he must have made some money. In an interview that I read, she says that she has sole custody of Lulu, but I would be happier knowing that Marco has been left without a penny. In conclusion, I gave this book 3 out 5 stars. I like the story and that Jen wants to become a therapist, but I wish I had seen her more assertive and angry throughout the book.

Oct 08, 2017

Quick read, not too much detail, not too descriptive. Writing is mediocre, too much use of the word babe, ugh....distracts from the story.

Sep 24, 2017

The author meets and marries a man whom she later, after having a baby, realizes is a sociopath, someone without empathy or conscience, but who is charming and complimentary. Interesting book, well-written, and reminded me of my first husband, who while not as horrible as this guy, was also charming and just the "nicest" person... until we got married. On our first night as a married couple he said to me 'now I can do anything', and he did. Luckily I, like the author, had parents I could rely on who helped me get out before he became worse and who helped me get back on my feet in terms of my emotional well-being as well as my career. This kind of thing can happen to nearly anyone because most of us go through life meeting people with open hearts, without cynicism, and we can all be duped by this type of personality disorder.

Aug 21, 2017

Just finished the book. This book is an excellent look at the male psychopath and how he operates. It is also a candid look in to the personality of the woman who falls in love with him too quickly and then tries to ignore all the signs.

debwalker Jul 12, 2017

What happens when you figure out your husband is a psychopath?

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